”Love consists not in feeling great things but in having great detachment and in suffering for the Beloved. The soul that is attached to anything, however much good there may be in it, will not arrive at the liberty of Divine union. For whether it be a strong wire rope or a slender and delicate thread that holds the bird, it matters not, if it really holds it fast; for until the cord be broken, the bird cannot fly.”
Detachment is not an easy feat to achieve, and it does not come all at once. We are always being introduced to new objects, people, or memories that we have to let be and not absorb ourselves or define ourselves by; in the same way detachment isn’t about separating yourself completely from the sensuous world, but rather as Buddha had discovered it’s the Middle Path that leads to enlightenment. The Middle Path can be walked once one has married the apparently polar aspects of ourselves, including our understanding of the world and each other.